COURSTEY MIRROR MUMBAI  MARCH 22

ASK THE SEXPERT
DR MAHINDER WATSA

1 I recently caught my son masturbating and I am not sure how to confront him about it. He is 17 years old and I know that it is normal, but he often tends to lock himself in his room for hours. I am worried that this might become an unhealthy habit or an addiction and he might start to ignore his studies or other responsibilities. How do I talk to him about it?

If you are comfortable talking about sexual matters with your son, then you may explain to him that masturbation is harmless, but like any other thing related to health, it should be done with care. He may continue doing so provided that it will not distract him from his studies and other activities. Encourage him to take part in extracurricular activities. Please understand that you should not tell him to stop as that will make him more secretive. If uncomfortable, then kindly seek the help of a sex educator.

2 I have been with my girlfriend for four months now. She has an insatiable sex drive. We often end up having sex two or three times a day and she’s usually the one to initiate it. At first, this was really exciting for me and I had no problem responding to her. But lately, I have started to feel like I cannot keep up with her and I am often not in the mood when she is. I really like her and I want to be able to satisfy her, but I want to know if it is normal that she is so often in the mood for sex. Also, is there a way I can ask her to slow down without making her feel bad?

I am sure she would understand if you discuss the matter with her. Meanwhile, you could satisfy her by giving her digital (fingers) stimulation, thus helping her to get an orgasm. This has been found to be satisfactory way for many women.