COURSTEYMIRRIOR  MARCH 5
ASK THE SEXPERT
DR MAHINDER WATSA

1 I am 20 years old. I have been masturbating with my right hand, and because of this, my penis has developed a bend towards the left (at about 45 degrees from the midline). I am very worried about this and I have stopped masturbating because of it. I want my penis to be erect and perpendicular. Should I start masturbating with my left hand to correct this tilt? What should I do to straighten my penis?

The curvature of the penis has nothing to do with your masturbation. If the curvature is not more than 30 degrees from the centre, you have nothing to worry for your future sex life; if it’s greater than that, it’s advisable to consult a urologist.

2 I am a 24-year-old bachelor. I like it when a woman dominates a man in bed and I only enjoy BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Submission and Sadomasochism) porn. Regular pornography bores me. I’ve read that in a marriage, when one partner is kinky and the other is not, the marriage is unlikely to work. Is this true? I know that it will not be easy to find a woman who can fulfil my desires, and yet I don’t want to be stuck in an unhappy marriage. So I need to know: when I search for a wife, should I look for someone who is into BDSM and tell her about my desires before marriage? Or should I just hope that she or I would change in the future and not ruin my chances?

If you are thinking of marriage, it is best you be clear about your wishes with the partner. Do not wait until after the marriage to tell her. It may rebound into an unhappy event. You can consult a psychologist to see whether he/she can help you.